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In case some of you may not know, I'm grieving the unexpected loss of my dad which happened 7 months ago. My interest in speedos is kind of known by my mom, but not the entire picture, figuratively speaking. COVID-19 has screwed things up even to have fun in speedos because in Toronto or to swim.

My mom has become quite attached to me, more than the usual and I have no siblings or family here in Canada. Unfortunately, in 3 weeks, we will have to go to Portugal to take care of some estate issues. I say unfortunately because I've always travelled solo (good and bad) but it has allowed me to explore my sexual curiosity with guys - that part is well hidden. I know my mom is going to cling to me. I want to at least wear AussieBum League 21 at the beach and pool which I'm hopeful won't be an issue.

But I want to explore my sexual curiosity a bit, such as through male/gay massage, preferably lingam massage. I had a brief conversation with my mom about clinging to me and that fortunately/unfortunately I'm used to doing things solo when I travel.

Has anyone been to the south of Portugal, the Algarve? That's where I will be. I will either be in the capital city Faro or its sister city Olhão. How is the speedo culture at the beaches there?

Hi Speedoboi, I can't offer any advice on Portugal as I've never been but I suspect this trip is going to have to be about you and your Mum, simply because Europe isn't really conducive at the moment to slipping away for a lost afternoon of sexual experimentation. In England masks are still mandetory but maybe not after next week and there is constantly changing Foreign Office rules about which countries are safe to visit in Europe and which aren't. Even for people who aren't worried about Covid I suspect finding sex partners will be hard work.

Norfcountryboy wrote: ↑

Tue Jul 13, 2021 5:03 am

Hi Speedoboi, I can't offer any advice on Portugal as I've never been but I suspect this trip is going to have to be about you and your Mum, simply because Europe isn't really conducive at the moment to slipping away for a lost afternoon of sexual experimentation. In England masks are still mandetory but maybe not after next week and there is constantly changing Foreign Office rules about which countries are safe to visit in Europe and which aren't. Even for people who aren't worried about Covid I suspect finding sex partners will be hard work.

Thanks for your comment. I will have to see about dividing my time for myself and between my mom and I.

Balance your times alone and together.
Suggestions to inspire:
- From day 1, make it a priority for her to make and meet up with friends
- Schedule a spa day for her one day perhaps
- One day arrange a shopping excursion (then both dress up and go out for dinner)
- Look for a productive new hobby she can learn in Portugal and resume once home
Try to have three days and two nights a week where you each do your own thing. You may need to lovingly give her a "push start" of ideas, doing some planning, scheduling / setting appointments.

If she resists, she is not rejecting you. She is rejecting the scary of new territory of loneliness ahead of her. Grief time and abilities to move forward vary. Thanks for seeking to be genuinely helpful to her.